In the past 2 weekends, I have spent some time with people who let their (in)significant others control their lives. I can see someone trying to work out their differences with a person they care about, but how can you truly care about someone who treats you like a doormat? That lead me to my next post...

I HATE DOORMATS!!!

Most people have been doormats at some time in their life. For whatever insane reason, we let ourselves be ruled by a person who clearly cares for us much less than we care for them. This is all well and good, but at some point you've got to say enough is e-f@#king-nough!

This morning I found out that a person I know (let's call him Ricky as I wouldn't want to give up his identity) went back to his girlfriend. Sounds like good news doesn't it?

"The estranged couple, once again finding love." (Birds sing while flute music plays in the background)

It's such a sweet thought. He loves her and can't live without her.

That is the romantic version of the story. The real version reads much like an episode of the Trailer Park Boys! Michael er... I mean Ricky, has been in Alberta working while his girlfriend (let's call her Lucy -- maybe I should spell it Loosey) has been at home tending to the household. While Ricky was away, Loosey had several "weak" moments and ended up in the Carribean with another man (could have been more than one man I suppose. Hell, she was probably doing Corey, Trever, J-Roc, Randy, Officer Green, Sam Loscow and Sh#tty Bill -- she'd probably do Steve French too, if she had the chance!). The worst thing about it is that she used HIS money to pay for it. Ricky worked for months and came home to find that the $12,000 that he had saved was spent on Loosey's trips with these other men. She immediately told him pack his stuff and leave, 'cause he wasn't going to live with her (in the house that he paid the downpayment on, but is not on the deed).

The sad part about this situation is that this is not the first time she has done something like this. She sticks around him while he has the money to pay for what she wants (all the time cheating on him), and when the money runs out, so does she! Ricky was injured last year and she kicked him out because she did not want to take care of him. So he slept on a friend's couch until he was healed and working again and she "took him back".

Last weekend, I went out with Ricky and some of the boys. Ricky went on and on about this being a new start for him and how happy he was to be away from that "slut". One week later, he is crying in her kitchen after his sister beats Loosey up and they are "in love again"!?!

This guy really is a load that should've been swallowed! He's so stupid, makes me wonder if he's the product of cousin love!

I can hear the piano music now... doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo... (Trailer Park Boys Theme)

I was reading a CNN article the other day about female teachers abusing male students (they described it as having sex with the students, but sex with a minor is abuse any way you look at it). What I found really disturbing about this article is that the story has been turned into a racial debate.

I HATE RACISTS!!!

Because the 2 teachers were white and the 6 alleged victims were black (which accounts for 1/4 of that county's population), the racial debate has reared it's ugly head. The women in question were released on bail and this has stirred racial tensions. There are black people quoted in the story saying that

"If this had been black teachers, they would not be out of jail right now"

Really?!? seems like a rather racist view to me. To assume that the only reason that the teachers were released on bail is because they are white or because they are accused of crimes against blacks is utterly ridiculous. Could it be that they are not considered a flight risk and are unlikely to re-offend while they await trial? The point is, I would expect that a black woman abusing white boys would be treated in the same was. Maybe I am just nieve.

There was another quote from the state NAACP president...

"I can assure you if it were an African American male who committed such an offense against a white female, history shows us that the charges, the punishment and the sentencing would be totally different"

I have news for you buddy... If it was ANY male committing these crimes against ANY female, things would be different. To me, that is more of a sexism issue than a race issue.

I mean, how would the Aferican American public feel if the Caucasians began preaching that the only reason OJ (who was as guilty is sin) was aquitted was because he is black? Had he been white, he whould have been locked up and they would have thrown away the key!

I really am tired of the victim attitude that so many in our world seem to have. This goes for all races, creeds and colours. You cannot see racism in everything! I am not saying that there is race equality around the world, but for christ's sake, there are alot of things that have nothing to do with race. In my opinion, to be called a racist, you have to have malicious intent. I remember Oprah pointing out that she found makeup at the pharmacy whose colour was "Skin Colour". Oprah pointed out that this was racist (although it didn't bother her) because her skin wasn't that colour. Well, I know alot of rather pale skinned people that have a different shade skin than the shade of the makeup. Does this mean that they too should take offense?